"When did I say you shouldn't do that?" Adrian said. "Again, why I suggested you go and talk to her, rather than saying anything myself. And why I just acknowledged that while I am probably not the best person to talk about this kind of stuff with her, she'll hopefully be amenable to conversations with someone else. I found much of our conversation frustrating and we clearly have different values, but that's me. I don't expect that to be the same for you."